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Thanksgiving with the MIL... ugh!

December 4th, 2007 at 06:37 pm

It's taken me this long to get over Thanksgiving. In my last post, I indicated that we were hosting Thanksgiving dinner for around 25 people. We ended having 22 folks. I had cooked a 21 lb. turkey and it turned out fabulous... had plenty to go around and still had lots of leftovers. Now, here's where I got upset on turkey day. My mother-in-law didn't want to host the dinner so we offered... so why in the world did dear MIL cook and bring over her own turkey and gravy???!!!! She said that she was afraid that I wouldn't have enough turkey for everyone --- I got so fuming mad that it's honestly taken until now to get over it. Needless to say, MIL left my house with her turkey and gravy as none of it was needed. I was so offended by the mere thought that she didn't think I could plan for so many people. Geez! Wouldn't that make you guys mad?

7 Responses to “Thanksgiving with the MIL... ugh!”

  1. Ima saver Says:
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    Yes it would make me mad too!!

  2. fern Says:
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    To be honest, i really don't understand why what she did offended you so much. I don't think she thought you weren't able to plan your dinner, I think that maybe she was just trying to contribute something, and perhaps felt a little guilty for not wanting to have the dinner herself. This is one of those things where i would tell myself don't sweat the small stuff. If you otherwise have a decent relationship with your MIL, i would just move on and forget it.

  3. all4money Says:
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    I know what you are saying, fern, but the thing is (and I may not have mentioned in my original post) she was only supposed to bring the stuffing and a pumpkin roll. Other family members were bringing other items... besides just hosting the dinner, I was in charge of - you guessed it: the turkey and gravy! The Wed. before she did call the house and asked if we needed anything else... we said no, that everything was taken care of. She still shows up with a whole other turkey and gravy to boot. It just urked me but I'm over it now... I supposed that is what in-laws are for - to bug us. Smile

  4. monkeymama Says:
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    I so totally understand and feel your pain. I am not sure if this family has seen so much drama as this last Thanksgiving. We had to go on vacation to recover. LOL. What may be innocent to some could be darn right manipulative. I have some relatives like that, very unfortunately. Wink Our T-Day was much the same. So sorry for you.

    Love the fam, but they sure drive me crazy too.

  5. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:
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    Guest brings little turkey = "You just don't know how much it really takes to feed this crew. I'll be your back up."

    Guest brings big turkey = "You are incompetent and will have to throw in the garbage any turkey you tried to cook. I'll be the only way my family will get to have a decent meal."

    Is that how it goes?

  6. baselle Says:
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    No harm, no fowl! Big Grin

  7. HelpMeFriend Says:
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    Take something to her house that you know she is a claim to fame for, maybe cookies or ham at Easter. Getting back with kindness kills the worst of the bad.
    She will hate it so much that you were kind, and not showing yourself like a behind. Like she did.

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