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People just need to grow up!

November 4th, 2013 at 08:17 am

I am tired of pettiness, stubbornness, and down right meanness...

I supervise 5 ladies, 3 of which are just making me mad. They have worked together in the same office (literally) for over 17 years with the same office/furniture set up and layout all this time. My boss decides it's time to hire another person and wants me to redo the office space to accommodate this new person. I ask lots of questions and provide these 3 ladies ample opportunity for input and collaboration on where we will put this new person. So, all is agreed upon and moving-furniture-day arrives. Last Wed, we had a gaggle of men here moving things around and re-organizing the layout of the office based on the specifications of what we all agreed on. On this moving day, one of the ladies is on the verge of tears, looks so upset, and is so distraught... MY boss notices her reaction and comes back to our area at the end of the day after the entire move is completed just to ridicule ME about how I jumped the gun and he didn't authorize such a move (just to save face in front of this lady). I have now lost all credibility as a manager/supervisor over these 3 ladies and it gets worse... these ladies aren't even speaking to me now except for the work stuff that we have to talk about. We used to have a very friendly and open work environment but now it's like I have entered into the most depressed work environment ever! I don't even get a good morning any longer.

I am tired of the second grade behavior --- get over it already! This has been going on for since last Wed and it's just stupid. It's just a freakin' office that instead of being shared with 3 people, it's now going to be 4 (new girl starts tomorrow). The space is large and there is still plenty of space... Geez, people.

Ok, sorry, I had to vent. My DH thinks these ladies are so juvenile to get worked up over a moving layout that they all came up with in the first place. I didn't tell them it had to be any certain way but as a group, they came up with the layout and now they are punishing me for disturbing their way of life for the last 2 decades! Arrgh. Makes me want to look for another job where there are mature people around! --Oh, and I now hate my boss for backstabbing me. He and I spoke extensively about this office move and I only acted upon his direction but he made it sound like I caused all this 'unnecessary' drama. Crazy, I tell ya.

12 Responses to “People just need to grow up!”

  1. CB in the City Says:

    We had similar drama when our offices moved, but it seems like everyone is over it now. Some people just can't handle change. Your boss sounds like a jerk.

  2. Nebraska girl Says:

    I feel your pain! Hope it gets better!

  3. Jenn Says:

    The problem is your boss. He undermined your authority and you ought to get the air cleared with him. Sounds like his inability to support you during a conflict has adversely impacted the productivity of the entire department.

  4. baselle Says:

    Agreed about the boss. If you have email threads or other written pieces that indicate that you did your due diligence: everybody had been alerted and signed off on the layout, that can give you more ammo. (I know, if everybody was an adult you wouldn't need it).

    When I did my kitchen remodel, the contractors looked at me carefully - there's always the one person who signs the construction agreement, puts down the deposit, meets with the contractors, goes over (and over) what is to be done and then the first day cries because "it's a shambles!". Contractors tell me the same thing - they're in the social work business with power tools.

  5. Looking Forward Says:

    Your boss made it way worse! Argh!!
    I'd have an upfront, honest conversation with the other three woman about how you got hung-out-to-dry and how you feel now. Get the elephant out of the room.
    I'd also be seriously tempted to move it all back the way it was and tell the "boss" to find a place for *new girl* to sit since obviously he KNOWS best.
    Good luck!!

  6. alsnafu Says:

    {{{Hugs}}} Supervisors/bosses no longer seem to support their staff but staff are still expected to support the boss. . Finding a pleasant work environment is getting very difficult. Horrible behavior of colleagues seems like an offshoot of road rage. My favorite coping mechanism is to go out of my way to be kind and cheerful when I encounter silly/bad/unprofessional behavior. Lots of smiles, G'day, home made cookies/rice krispie squares, new flavor of herbal tea etc. Sounds silly but they are so perplexed, they behave. lol

  7. rob62521 Says:

    So sorry...your boss threw you under the bus! As for the women(notice I did not put ladies) need to get over themselves, but I wouldn't look for it any time soon.

  8. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    What a rotten situation. Maybe talking with the other ladies to clear the air might be a good idea. You could be the bigger person - sometimes that's the only way around juveniles - someone has to be the adult.

  9. ThriftoRama Says:

    Having worked in many offices, I can tell you that people absolutely lose their minds if someone rearranges the furniture. I have no idea why. All I can guess is that humans are creatures of habit, and they get used to certain views, steps to the copier, etc. and it totally wrecks their world when it's changed. It isn't you. People are just crazy, and they will adapt. In two weeks, they'll forget what it used to look like. Boss needs to back you up.

  10. all4money Says:

    Well, by golly gee... guess what the news is today?? Boss man comes in and says that this is what will happen... everything will go back to the way it was and new girl will be moving to an entirely new space. Geez! In other words, he totally does not support me, especially my role as the supervisor of this team leading them into making their own decisions, etc. I was acting under his direction, first of all, and secondly, how much of a coward can he be to have these ornery women win!?? Just because they pout and throw a "woe is me" party, my gosh. This makes him look like the good guy to everyone and makes me look like a wuss!

  11. CB in the City Says:

    Yep, your boss is a jerk!

  12. baselle Says:

    I guess we all know who the real boss(es) are in your office.

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