Ok, so my younger sister just received a great job offer.... so why do I feel so jealous of her? She and her hubby are in so much better shape financially that we are and that just makes me ache. She's making right around the $100k mark with this new job from what I can piece together (she doesn't share her income numbers with me anymore). Together with her DH, they are making about $180k I think. Now, DH and myself, we aren't making shabby incomes at around $140k but we work in a completely different sector so I have to keep reminding myself of this. I think the thing that bothers me the most is that sis will have her house paid off in the next 8-10 years (brand new house they bought in 2006)... while I'm still carrying 2 mortgages and will be for a long while. I'm just so envious. Ugh. I know I should be happy for her but it's hard to be... I'm such a bad sister
My sister got a new job!
February 7th, 2013 at 02:49 pm
February 7th, 2013 at 03:11 pm 1360249884
February 7th, 2013 at 03:13 pm 1360250003
Bad sister? No. Honest with yourself? Sure. It is really hard not to compare your situation to others, but one of the costs of doings so is an overly-inflated sense of ego or a poor-me-syndrome. I've been there, done that. Only over the past few years have I moved to point where I'm content with what I've got. Honesty with yourself is the best policy
February 7th, 2013 at 03:35 pm 1360251311
I can relate. My dh's little sister is probably the only other person we know with some financial savvy (except a few friends). Our family tends to be pretty fiscally conservative, but a lot of them have gone off the deep end with marrying spendy spouses and stuff. ANYWAY, for the most part, since she is younger, I am mostly in awe with how well they have done. & it's kind of refreshing given the financial stupidity that abounds. BUT, if they pay off their mortgage before we do... I don't want to know about it. That would make me jealous. & I probably am not too jealous because though their income is probably 2.5 times mine, they also have double the mortgage we do, and work a hell of a lot more than we do. So, I am not saying in your shoes that I wouldn't be as jealous. It helps that they have some situations that I am NOT jealous of. & siblings tend to be competitive, so there is that whole thing. If this was just a friend, and not a sibling, probably not the same feelings?
February 7th, 2013 at 04:12 pm 1360253572
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February 7th, 2013 at 11:37 pm 1360280228
I too envy your income; we all do the best we can with the circumstances within our control. I chose to accept contracts I like, not always the ones that pay the most.
February 8th, 2013 at 02:40 am 1360291259
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