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My sister got a new job!

February 7th, 2013 at 06:49 am

Ok, so my younger sister just received a great job offer.... so why do I feel so jealous of her? She and her hubby are in so much better shape financially that we are and that just makes me ache. She's making right around the $100k mark with this new job from what I can piece together (she doesn't share her income numbers with me anymore). Together with her DH, they are making about $180k I think. Now, DH and myself, we aren't making shabby incomes at around $140k but we work in a completely different sector so I have to keep reminding myself of this. I think the thing that bothers me the most is that sis will have her house paid off in the next 8-10 years (brand new house they bought in 2006)... while I'm still carrying 2 mortgages and will be for a long while. I'm just so envious. Ugh. I know I should be happy for her but it's hard to be... I'm such a bad sister Frown

9 Responses to “My sister got a new job!”

  1. CB in the City Says:

    Hey, don't feel bad, I'm jealous of you! Smile Seriously, it can be difficult to digest good news for another when you wish it could have been you! Give it time. It's a natural reaction and you will overcome it.

  2. laura Says:

    Bad sister? No. Honest with yourself? Sure. It is really hard not to compare your situation to others, but one of the costs of doings so is an overly-inflated sense of ego or a poor-me-syndrome. I've been there, done that. Only over the past few years have I moved to point where I'm content with what I've got. Honesty with yourself is the best policy Smile

  3. MonkeyMama Says:

    Hey, I am jealous of you too. LOL. It might be a good exercise to think seriously of how most of the world does not have that kind of income. A thankfulness exercise.

    I can relate. My dh's little sister is probably the only other person we know with some financial savvy (except a few friends). Our family tends to be pretty fiscally conservative, but a lot of them have gone off the deep end with marrying spendy spouses and stuff. ANYWAY, for the most part, since she is younger, I am mostly in awe with how well they have done. & it's kind of refreshing given the financial stupidity that abounds. BUT, if they pay off their mortgage before we do... I don't want to know about it. That would make me jealous. Wink & I probably am not too jealous because though their income is probably 2.5 times mine, they also have double the mortgage we do, and work a hell of a lot more than we do. So, I am not saying in your shoes that I wouldn't be as jealous. It helps that they have some situations that I am NOT jealous of. & siblings tend to be competitive, so there is that whole thing. If this was just a friend, and not a sibling, probably not the same feelings?

  4. sweetlady2k Says:

    Dont feel too bad. I have a cousin the same age as me who did everything right while i did everything wrong. Even though i was the smart one who didnt struggle in school like she did. I got pregnant at age 20. Got married young, she went to college at the same time i did both community colleges. She got a 2 year nursing degree, i got a AA meaning to eventually get a BA in elem. Ed. I worked in retail and kept getting promoted so stopped college since i out earned teachers. She got married in her late 20's they both made great money and then it flipped. She had 3 kids, husband lost his job, they lost thier beautiful home and had to move back to thier hometown to get on thier feet. Lived with her parents. I did get divorced and have 2 kids but work in sales and make decent money. She got pregnant again and had twins. So 5 kids. They are getting back on thier feet financially again but although i used to be really jealous of her, i am not now. Anything can happen and all we can do is our best with the choices we made.

  5. Joan.of.the.Arch Says:

    I'm jealous of people with really cool, immensely rare and beautiful stuff on The Antiques Road Show! Now that stuff is un-replicable. You might someday have a greater income than your sister, but I will never find the world's only celadon and cobalt, dribble-glazed, Arts & Crafts 20 inch vase by William Jernsen made during his fourth year in Ohio just sitting in my attic. Nope, it's a one and only and someone else already has it. Foo!...Oh well, it's just a moment's jealousy and hopefully that all yours amounts to as well. Wink

  6. snafu Says:

    If you can use your sister's circumstances as a motivator, why not. I thing you got trapped in the economic Tsunami that nearly drowned millions. It's wonderful that work circumstances are improving and the economy is inching upward.

    I too envy your income; we all do the best we can with the circumstances within our control. I chose to accept contracts I like, not always the ones that pay the most.

  7. FrugalTexan75 Says:

    When my brother was working as a waiter he was making nearly 4x as much as me. I wasn't exactly jealous, but sure did think sometimes about what I could do with that kind of money! Smile

  8. Jerry Says:

    It is all relative, isn't it? Lots of people would be jealous of your sister's income, but your own paycheck would lead plenty of others to feel the same way. And then there are still other people of whom your sister might be jealous. I think that we just need to have some insurance that we are making the best decisions possible with the income that we have, and try to improve all of the time. And hey, congrats to your sister! Smile Jerry

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